May I suggest a Mother And Daughter Tea? Some of the most endearing moments of being a woman, are the intimate tête–à–tête moments between mother and daughter. Such moments often occur at any time: over a casual cup of coffee, shopping together, a lunch, a birthday–even a short ride in a car.
In the U.S., there is an official day to honor and celebrate Mother’s Day, and an unofficial day to celebrate daughter’s day. But I say, any day you’re alive is a good day to celebrate the relationship between mothers and daughters. Do it with a special tea!
Setting Up Your Own Mother And Daughter Tea occasion can be up scale or simple or somewhere in between. It can be for a late morning, lunch or afternoon.
To Create A Basic or Somewhere in Between Tea Occasion
Here’s a list what you’ll need to create a successful basic or somewhere in between tea occasion:
- A plan with a schedule is really critical!
- Number of guests and invitations
- A Menu (see menu ideas below)
- Tea (see how to make a pot of tea at the end)
- Arangement of flowers for a centerpiece (Optional: add several bud vases with a flower that become a take away gift for your guests)
- Chinaware to include a lovely tea pot, tea cups and saucers
- Flatware to include teaspoons and butter knives
- Servers (three-tier or cake plate/platter), sugar and creamer, and a small bowl if you are serving plotted creme
- Linen to include cloth napkins and tablecloth
I always like to have sufficient small plates for just the tea sandwiches and then another for the dessert
If you want to serve a grand finale, which I highly recommend, serve a beautiful cake or a fabulous torte.
I promise you, there won’t be a crumb left!
To Create An Upscale Tea Occasion
To create an up scale mother and daughter tea or any tea occasion, follow the list above. But here is where you break out the fine china ware, the sterling silver flatware, and the very best linen. Definitely include a statement bouquet of flowers. Your menu items may even be more elaborate. Without a doubt, I strongly suggest a three-tier tea tray. Use the very best and elegant tier tray your budget can afford. In short, pull out the stops.
Styles And Where To Buy Tea Sets, China and Flatware
When it comes to styles, you won’t be disappointed with the wide range of designs from the very traditional to contemporary and minimalist to Asian, material contents and price points. You can go with a very traditional style and purchase so that every piece matches as a unified collection. Or just have a lot of fun and create a tea collection that is eclectic, such as different tea cup designs.
White there are so many designers and companies to choose from, here are just a few to get you started:
- Royal Albert of England for the traditional flower patterns in fine china. The company has been around since 1904 and the selections are simply divine.
- Lenox ™ carries beautiful fine china tea sets in the traditional floral and butterfly patterns to the solid colors for the more contemporary look.
- A. Raynaud & Co from France offer an exquisite limognes collection
- Wedgewood Tea & Teaware, since 1759, offers a selections tea china that is simply to die for!! You’ll find selections from the traditional to the traditional patterns with modern interpretations to contemporary.
Replacements, LTD is a company that offers an extensive selection in finding replacements pieces for china, crystal and silverware, old and new. You will need to know the brand and pattern name.
One of the fun activities for a mother and daughter tea is deciding what to serve. A classic serving will of course include a tea often black or green. Herbal teas are also available. But frankly, I must say black is the first choice with green coming in second. Why waste a perfectly good tea occasion with a herbal tea. Okay, I’m probably just a tea snob!!
Want to know how to make the perfect pot of tea? Start with instructions from Yorkshire Tea, U.K. There are of course instructions on the box of tea bags, which I would recommend. If using loose tea, The Tea Spot is a great site that even breaks down how much to use based on the type of tea.
Next high on the menu list should be scones, jam and clotted cream. In the U.S., clotted cream can be difficult to find, especially when you don’t live in or even near a big city. I did find a wonderful recipe on All Recipes.com for a ‘mock’ clotted cream. It was labeled easy clotted cream but that’s simply not the case. I made it and followed a reviewers suggestion to strain the sour cream over night. I loved it.
Ingredients for a mock clotted cream:
- 1 cup heavy cream
- 1/3 cup sour cream
- 1 Tablespoon confectioner’s sugar
Preparation: Using a wish attachment on the mixer, whip heavy cream until stiff peaks form. Remove from mixer. Hand wisk in sour cream and confectioner’s sugar until just combined. Store in refrigerator.
Tea sandwiches and pastries are an absolute must. Your choices are huge and will depend on your taste. Here is what I had included in my mother and daughter tea party above.
- Vegetable Medley (from MyRecipe.com): thinly sliced cucumbers, summer squashes and radishes on *white bread. Bread should be buttered then add a layer of mayonnaise. Arrange vegetables on bread, slice to form two triangles and top with salt and coarse white pepper.
- Egg tea sandwich: Sliced hard boiled eggs. Cut bread into rectangle about 3″ long for (for 3 slices of eggs) and 1-3/4″ wide. Butter top of the bread and one side. Add a layer of mayonnaise to the top. Dip the buttered side into finely chopped curly-leaf parsley. Top with sliced eggs, add salt and coarse white pepper.
- Smoked salmon: Using a heart shaped cookie cutter, cut out a piece of white bread (or try a lovely wheat bread). Top with butter, then mayonnaise, smoked salmon and garnish with dill. Or try a garnish of thinly sliced of the part of a spring onion.
- Miniclub sandwich (idea from Traditional Home magazine, May 2001): Generously butter sliced white bread; spread mayonnaise on both top and bottom slices. Layer bacon, lettuce, tomato, and turkey on one slice. Add the top bread layer. Cut each sandwich diagonally in quarters to make four triangles. Use a decorative tooth pick if needed to hold the sections together. I had used garnished each section with spouts.
Unless you’re a pastry chief, I strongly suggest that you go to a good bakery and buy a cake and pastries until your heart’s content. As you can see, I had purchased petite fours and a chocolate torte. I had planned on baking scones (even had dry ingredients already mixed) but ran out of time and found myself dashing off to Starbucks!
*A note on the bread: use thin sliced bread and always, always, always slice off the ends! Did I stress this enough? So now you know my second pet peeve on tea occasions.
Blog Post Wrap Up
I so hope you enjoyed this blog post on mother and daughter tea parties. Don’t wait just for mother’s day or some special occasion. Make any day you’re alive a special get together over tea. Have fun and dress the occasion if you like. What’s the fun dress attire? A lovely dress, an adorable hat and white gloves. Okay, in the U.S., white gloves may be a bit over the top depending upon where you are (home, a friends or some lovely swanky place.) However, if the spirit moves you, do it!!
But If you have never experienced a tea occasion, first go to an upscale hotel that serves tea, particularly those in major cities, such as New York, Chicago and Washington D.C.. Admittedly, even some upscale hotels can be wanting on serving a good tea. (I must decline to name the one that comes to my mind.) If you’re fortunate enough to travel to England, don’t miss an opportunity to go to tea. You’ll find many excellent places for tea. (Perhaps some of my English readers would be wiling to name one or two places? On please do!) I can also suggest, the Ritz Carlton at Pentagon City in Washington D.C.
Please do feel free to share your experiences in having had a mother and daughter tea
or any other occasion you took to have tea.
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